Monday, 4 January 2016

Dry January: Are you doing it? Am I?

'Are you doing Dry January?' I've been asked several times. Am I? Does it count if you're 'dry' all the time? I don't know.
What I do know is that I feel as if all the Dry January people are suddenly flooding into what I consider 'my world'. After 2 days, the benefits of becoming alcohol free became apparent and one of my friends gushed for quarter of an hour to me about the benefits she'd noticed already:

'I've so much energy! I'm sleeping so well! I feel so positive and alive!'

Yes, I know and I'm pretty sure I alluded to the same feelings 3 years ago (almost) when I stopped drinking (but then you thought I was mad and that you could never go without your glass of wine!)

I don't resent it- let them all enjoy being free from the poison, but still, I can't help thinking
1. I told you so, and
2. What's changed?

Because many of those doing Dry January are the same ones who have poo hoo-ed the idea of going sober for months. They've teased me, thought me boring, no fun, and in need of lightening up a bit and having just one. Go on.
Suddenly it's become cool to say you're going sober. They seek (and get) admiration and positive attention: donations to their cause, enquiries after their well being and social life and most of all- support- from those around them. No-one thinks they're alcoholic, they don't feel embarrassed to say they're stopping, and there is no shame- in fact the opposite is true- a brave 'I've over indulged so much I'm going to balance it out by being sober for a whole month!' type of accolade.

Am I over-reacting? Being over-sensitive and taking it all too personally? Perhaps. Despite this I will wait and watch with intrigue when the end of the month rolls around and see how those attitudes change.

Happy New Year.


  1. I can understand your frustration 100%, especially when it's nothing new for you. Also curious what will happen after January for them, and all doing Dry January. My last drink was Dec 29, and I plan to go way past this month. Been struggling for far too long, and finally feel strong enough. Read your book, reading other books like crazy, blogs, joined the Soberista's site, just cannot get enough inspiration and knowledge xo

  2. I get the same thoughts.
    I try hard to remember everyone has their own journey and to offer support. And the odd, see? I told you so. Lol

  3. Hi Rachel!
    One of my friends quit and is drinking again.
    That's harder to watch.
    But I am practicing detachment.
    It's his life, not mine.
    I am happy when anyone can quit!
    I am very happy I don't drink!!!!!


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